Monday, July 03, 2006

Rest In Peace

Earlier today around 11:00 AM my childhood best friend and next door neighbor Jimmy died on his motorcycle, he was only twenty one years of age. When I found out the news I was traumatized and just could not believe it although he was one who loved to live his life on the edge. He was a very accident prone person because he always tried to take things to the next step and this tragically led to the end of the road. He was such a kindhearted person and I highly doubt anyone can deny that, I somewhat feel all his life he was looking for acceptance and tried to pursue that by taking things to the next level and going above and beyond what everyone else was doing. As time grew on we slowly drifted apart but that never decreased the way I thought of him. When I think back on his life the one thing I will remember about him is that he just may have been one of the nicest people I've ever met especially if you get to know him really well. This tragic accident was terrible in its own right but what makes this situation even worse is both his mother and sister had to watch him go in such an unexpected way, and just four years earlier Jimmy and his sister had to watch their father pass away from a brain tumor. So now the mother is left without a husband and son, and the sister is left without a father and brother. I just ask that you keep all of them in your prayers because they surely need it.

This brings me to a separate note thinking about how fragile life truly is. Everyone around the world gets so carried away with the hussle and bussle of ordinary life, pondering on their future and jobs. We rarely think about cherishing each and every moment we live and being kind to all those we are around because we hardly ever wonder if each second is going to be our last. I hate to speak on such a negative topic but it won't leave my mind. I want to think that maybe it is a waste of time thinking about the future because who knows if I will even cease to exist. I realize that not focusing any attention on my future would only harm me but maybe I should spend more time focusing on the now opposed to what may be. Each choice in life is a gamble and who knows where it will lead me, I can only hope that I will be alive and healthy and living strong at a nice old age, so as of now I feel I should spend more time thinking about what is going on in the present opposed to where I end up in the future. Sorry for writing on such a depressing topic but it is hard to let go...

7 Comments:

Blogger Moose said...

Sorry for your loss Jeff. My uncle died on a motorcycle before I was born and he was only 22 years old. On December 1st of last year I was involved in a car accident that involved a motorcycle but that man lived. That man will live with permanent injuries and it was all caused by a man who was speeding. That other guy(the guy who was speeding) had a severe neck injury. To get to my point motorcycles are very dangerous and if you are going to ride one wear a HELMET!!!!! Just last month Ben Roethlisberger(Steelers quarterback) wasn't wearing a helmet and he almost died. I will never ride a motorcycle because I promised my family. Was your friend wearing a helmet Jeff?

1:31 AM  
Blogger Jeff said...

He actually was wearing a helmet, after he fell of the bike he was hit by a bus and then once again by a car...

1:33 AM  
Blogger Layla said...

Oh, Jeff, I am hugging you tight. I am so very sorry. Very, very sorry. I know how it feels to lose someone unexpectedly and I think its harder than knowing in advance. I especially feel bad for his mom and sister.

Praying for you.

Layla

12:34 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Hi Jeff,

I'm sorry for your loss. My fisrt husband died suddenly in 1998 from a mountain climbing fall. When you're grieving, the pat responses you get from people like "sorry for loss" often ring hollow. I wanted to slap people who told me crap like that.

You go ahead and grieve however it feels right.

On the philosophical side, the heightened awareness that comes with grief is a gift you wish everyone could experience without the whole grief part. I must say honestly that death is my final thought every night before I go to sleep. It's not morbid or pessimistic or self-absorbed. It's the heightened awareness that none of us know our final hour, but we do know the hour right now. Without being fatalistic, you must sieze the day and live in the moment.

But don't forget to plan for retirement!

Keep the faith, my Brother Man.

7:09 PM  
Blogger Neo said...

Jeff - Sorry to hear of your loss. 21 is just too damn young to die. I'll say a prayer for your fallen friend. Sometimes dead at such a young age is so senseless. May God grace his relatives for their loss.

Peace & Prayers,

- Neo

8:59 PM  
Blogger Jeff said...

Thank You all for your condolences!

10:35 PM  
Blogger d.edlen said...

Nicely put, and don't apologize for sharing your truth. Loss sucks. No way 'round it.

Peace.

12:02 PM  

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